Hi! Can share a little about yourself and what you do?
My name is Alexis Hyde and I’m the Director of the Museum of Broken Relationships here in Los Angeles, CA on Hollywood Blvd. I’m in charge of curating the exhibit, planning our programming and housing all the beautiful and heartbreaking objects that are donated!
Can you tell us about a significant heartbreak and how you recovered?
One of my more significant was with a long-time best friend, he started dating and proposed to a woman that I not only didn’t like, but who I thought was actively terrible for him and I was vocal about it. He chose her. I still miss that friendship, so I guess I haven’t recovered! I did learn that when it comes to significant others though, if no abuse is happening, to keep my mouth shut because no one knows what happens between those two people except for them.
What are major red flags for you when you start dating someone new?
Anger/jealousy/bitterness on the first date. I am not saying we all have to be 100% resolved with our past or present relationships, but a first date is a time to be putting your best foot forward. If someone can’t even try that then, it’s only going to get worse.
What are your favorite mood elevators to uplift and inspire you?
Art of all kinds! Visual, music, books! I’ll go to galleries and museums I don’t normally see, get music recommendations from friends who have different tastes than me, and dive into a new genre of book to get new perspective! I have my old standbys for every day, but I love a kickstart of the unknown and unexplored!
Do you stay friends with your ex? Unfollow or follow them on social media, etc?
Depends on the situation. Not every broken relationship is a bad thing, and we aren’t made to be with every person we try to be with. I have lovely relationships with a lot of my exes and I genuinely love to see how they are thriving and doing. There are some though, that it doesn’t feel good to see pop up in my insta feed so I unfollow and feel no guilt about it. It’s my feed that should be adding to my life, not making me feel bad.
Any tips for our users on moving on from heartbreak?
Besides time, I think forgiveness is the most important thing. Know that you aren’t broken or wrong for being upset, no matter how long you are upset for. It was a significant thing in your life and now it’s gone or changed and that is hard. Forgive yourself for being upset, or wanting ice cream, or watching Netflix, or going out a few too many times to cope. It can be hard to not beat yourself up for not “moving on” or “bouncing back” fast enough. We all go at our own pace and that is not only ok, but normal!