Can share a little about yourself and what you do?
My name is Julia Samersova and I am a casting director based in NYC. I cast for almost every major global retail brand in the world. I absolutely LOVE my career! I am a mom to 4 year old twins, Luella and Hayes and the most incredible 8 year old named Violet who is my soulmate. I have lived in New York City my entire life. I am a die hard Soul Cycle fanatic and carb lover.
Can you tell us about a significant heartbreak and how you recovered?
I am literally going through a pretty brutal divorce at the moment. I am in the throes of deep anger and hurt and sadness at the moment. However, my recovery is based deeply in gratitude. Gratitude for my incredible children, my mother and my friends, who are my eternal support. I am also very grateful for an incredible psychiatrist, Zoloft and daily workouts! I focus on my children and my work and all the things that DON’T hurt. I will add that the pain is very deep and I feel gutted to my core. I try to FEEL all the feelings and NOT to numb them with drugs, alcohol or meaningless sex. I don’t judge those who choose that path, its just not my path to take.
What are major red flags for you when you start dating someone new?
Do we have all day? 🙂
– Issues with either of their parents that they cannot seem to resolve.
– Unwillingness to compromise.
– Not having any close friends.
– Not having a job.
– Control Issues.
What are your favorite mood elevators to uplift and inspire you?
Spending time with my closest friends, cooking, cleaning, working out and reading.
Being anywhere with my children.
Sleeping with my kids in my king size bed, all 3 of them.
Being OUTdoors connected to NATURE.
Zoloft and Dopamine Bean Powder from Sun Potion.
Massage and Cupping every Sunday night!
Do you stay friends with your ex? Unfollow or follow them on social media, etc?
My 1st divorce is/was extremely amicable. We are still great friends and amazing co-parents!
My 2nd divorce that I am currently going through is NOT amicable and yes, I unfollow on Social Media because I don’t want the constant reminder in my face!
Any tips for our users on moving on from heartbreak?
You MUST go through the darkness to get to the light.
There are NO fucking shortcuts!
You have to cry, feel horrible, mope around, talk shit to all that will listen, be ANGRY, be SAD, ALLOW yourself to wallow in ALL the feelings!
However, you MUST know that this too shall pass even though it seems so brutal at the time. You get up and you put ONE foot in front of the other. Buy yourself something that makes you feel good every day! Like a croissant!
Thank you, Julia! You can find out more about Julia and her work by visiting her website here.