Hi! Can share a little about yourself and what you do?
I’m an author, blogger, and designer living in a suburb of Washington, DC. In 2009, I launched PositivelyPresent.com as a way to share my personal experiences and insights on positivity, awareness, and self-love — things that don’t always come easily to me! These days, I spend tons of time illustration inspiration on Instagram (@positivelypresent).
Can you tell us about a significant heartbreak and how you recovered?
The most broken-hearted I’ve ever been has been when a dog I’ve had has passed away (which perhaps says a lot about my interactions with humans!), but a few years back, I did have a five-year relationship come to an end. It was for the best for both of us, and a very kind and loving break-up, but endings, however necessarily, are always painful. I overcame the pain of that big change by focusing on self-love, seeking out the good in my other relationships with friends and family, and finding positive outlets (writing and drawing) to explore my emotional state.
What are major red flags for you when you start dating someone new?
If he doesn’t like dogs, it’s a hard no for me. Other red flags include: closed-mindedness, a lack of books in his apartment, and any (current) substance abuse issues.
What are your favorite mood elevators to uplift and inspire you?
When I need a mood boost, I do one of the following things: find inspiring quotes on Instagram or Pinterest and draw something around them, play with my pup, Barkley (@barkleythemorkie), and/or watch a video that makes me laugh.
Do you stay friends with your ex? Unfollow or follow them on social media, etc?
No, I don’t stay friends with exes. I’m fortunate that almost all of my exes haven’t been into social media so I don’t have to worry about seeing them on there. If I did, however, and the images were causing me pain, I would certainly unfollow or unfriend. Peace of mind is essential to living the most positive and present life.
Any tips for our users on moving on from heartbreak?
First and foremost, I’d recommend doing whatever you can to make the break-up as positive as possible. If that’s not possible (and sometimes it’s not!), the best ways to move on from heartache are: feel your feelings (avoiding them never works out well!), surround yourself with positive people, and find an activity or hobby that will keep you inspired and engaged so you’re not dwelling on what was. Take your time and heal at your own pace. Also, get a dog! 😉
Dani DiPirro is an author, blogger, and designer living in a suburb of Washington, DC. In 2009, she launched PositivelyPresent.com as a way to share her personal experiences and insights on positivity, awareness, and self-love — things that didn’t always come easy to her!