The single life is often viewed as negative, but in reality, living single symbolizes freedom, independence and untapped potential for growth. Singles do most things alone, but you don’t have to feel lonely in the process. You just have to learn how to take what you have and use it to make a happy, successful life on your own.
If you have some of these signs, you’re actually on the right track to freedom and happiness as a single.
1. You come home to an empty house/bed.
Instead of wallowing in the silence, use it to recharge. Set up a routine centered around you. Cater to yourself. Pour that ice cold cocktail or iced tea for yourself. Draw a hot bath and turn down the bed sheets just like you would for a significant other. Cooking for one is still cooking for a loved one – yourself. Read a great book. Work out. Brainstorm on how to get ahead in your job. Arrange and maintain your home to your exact preference so that when you come home after a long day, you feel safe, relaxed and comfortable.
2. You can’t cry on your partner’s shoulder after a ‘bad day.’
Successful people, whether single or partnered, always focus on the positive. Instead of missing a partner to cry with, spend your time mentally preparing for the next ‘bad day.’ Focus on the good, your strengths and what you can do to improve.
3. Your schedule only includes you and/or your kids.
You have, right before your eyes, your very own life that you run completely. You have the flexibility to control every aspect of your schedule without having to compromise or work around anyone else! This is freedom! Take it and run with it.
4. You’re the sole financial provider and decision maker.
This isn’t stressful, this is control! When you’re budgeting, you don’t have to worry about a partner’s needs or desires. It’s all about you and/or your children! Not only do you have time to invest in yourself, but you have the responsibility to invest in yourself, your kids, your interests and your passions. Consider this a gift and use it wisely!
5. You don’t have anybody to help you with the ‘Honey-Do’ list.
Does this sound familiar? You come home after a long day and discover your dogs, once again, have escaped out of the fence that you knocked yourself out trying to secure. There’s no money for a new fence. You go back to square one trying to find a way to prop, ‘jimmy-rig,’ and repair the fence to keep the dogs in. After about ten tries, blood, sweat and tears, it works! Apply this situation to every single incident that you have no ‘honey’ to help you with. You’ll soon find that your being single can, and will help others many, many times.
6. You feel awkward at social events where there’s always happy couples.
You stick out like a sore thumb because you don’t have a significant other. Embrace it and use it to your advantage. Share your funny stories of being single with married couples. Promote your business. You came alone, with no relationship issues and you leave alone, with none either!
7. You don’t have anyone checking up on you if you’re working late.
Don’t let your mind trick you into thinking ‘nobody cares.’ In reality, you have nobody to answer to. You don’t have to face going home and waiting on your significant other even though you’re exhausted. So use your time productively to manifest success.
8. You have nobody to be spontaneous with.
The idea of spontaneity is acting on impulse. The advantage as a single is that you can be spontaneous without having to accommodate a partner’s preferences. Be spontaneous, have fun and cater to your own impulses!
9. You have no one to focus your love and adoration upon.
Showering love and adoration takes energy. So take your energy and invest your love and adoration into the one person who will always be there with you: YOU.
10. You have to tell people you’re single all the time and hear them say, “I’m sorry,” or give you that look of empathy.
The next time someone gives you those puppy dog eyes and says, “Awww, you’re single. I’m sorry.” Look at them puzzled and ask them why! You only live once and as a single, you’re 100% independent. Share your victories of independence with those who try and pity you. This is a victory, not a pity party!
Do you have any of these signs of the single life? If you do, you are on the right track! Take these signs and make them work for you instead of wallowing in self-pity. Make your single life a success, because in reality, the only thing that is for sure in this day and age is that YOU have YOU…until death do you part. Go make it a productive, single life!
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