Hi! Can share a little about yourself and what you do?
Hi! Jamie Erin Morrissey. I’m a health coach who works with women teaching them to support their mental health and emotional well-being through shifts in nutrition, lifestyle and various aspects of self-care. I’m best known for my Instagram account, @thehealthfulrebel. It’s an account where I share how I apply these principles in my own life, as well as quotes and ideas meant to inspire others to start putting themselves first- in a good way! I love working one-on-one with big-hearted women to support their goals. You can reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org … I love to connect with any and all!
Can you tell us about a significant heartbreak and how you recovered?
I’ve experienced many heartbreaks in my life, and am in fact recovering from one right now! When I was younger, I often attempted to numb the pain of heartbreak. As I have grown to understand the importance of emotional healing, I have learned that in order to get through the pain and grow from it, we have to allow ourselves to feel it. That’s not easy- for any of us. To help me get through the pain without numbing it, I focus on supporting my body and brain in three ways- movement, meals that nourish me and maintaining connection with those I love. These are three things -the three M’s- that I can force myself to engage in, even when I feel like I’m just going through the motions. By making it a daily point to maintain a healthy exercise and meal routine, as well as check in with friends and family, I am setting the foundation for my mind and body to be able to withstand the pain of heartbreak, without going to a place of hopelessness or despair.
What are major red flags for you when you start dating someone new?
As someone who loves to love, I can do a good job of convincing myself to ignore red flags! Sometimes there are major red flags that no one should ignore, such as someone who seems to be very controlling, demeaning, or makes you feel unsafe in any way. Then, there are red flags that may be more difficult to identify- usually a feeling that something just isn’t quite right. To help me get clear on whether or not I should continue seeing someone, I ask myself one question: does this person enhance the light I have inside of me, or are they extinguishing it? Never settle for spending time with someone who you feel is extinguishing your light or makes you feel you need to downplay any any of the unique and amazing things that make up who you are.
What are your favorite mood elevators to uplift and inspire you?
Two of the biggest things I have found to keep me feeling uplifted consistently have been feeding my body nourishing foods and making sure I move a little every day. These two things help me make sure my biology and chemistry are in line with the way I want to feel. When I’m feeling especially down in the dumps, such as in the midst of a breakup, I make sure to immerse myself in other things I love. For me, that includes listening to music that I can dance around and sing like crazy to, cuddling with my dog, doing anything creative, reading a good psychological thriller, watching a silly comedy, helping another person, and connecting with the people I love. Finally, while social media often has a bad reputation, it can be such an inspiring and motivating tool if used properly. I make sure I keep my feed full of accounts that focus on sharing good vibes and motivation. Sometimes a little external reminder to focus on the good or an inspiring quote can make all the difference in shifting your perception. Even I need reminders like that sometimes!
Do you stay friends with your ex? Unfollow or follow them on social media, etc?
I typically don’t stay friends with my exes and I usually unfollow them on social media- even if the breakup was amicable. For me, having those notifications or photos of them pop up brings me to a place of sadness that I don’t want in my life. When I’m healing, I need time to focus on myself, not what the other person is up to. Unfollowing them on social media allows me to focus on what I want to bring into my life next, rather than what I may have lost in the past.
Any tips for our users on moving on from heartbreak?
Ultimately, we all want to be able to do the emotional work needed to learn from and move on from heartbreak. Realistically, that is something that is very hard to do when we are in the thick of it. My biggest tips are to focus on the three M’s- movement, meals that nourish you, and maintaining a connect with those you love- even when you don’t feel like it. You may feel like you’re forcing it at first, but that’s okay. As your body and soul start to realize you’re taking care of them in the way they need, they will start taking care of you in the way you need. That is where real self-love, growth and healing can begin. Finally, don’t forget to be gentle with yourself. We all get into relationships that are wrong for us, we’ve all lost things we love, and we all feel pain. You’re not alone, and you will get through it, emerging better than ever.
If you would like to connect with Jamie, visit her Instagram account – The Healthful Rebel.