Hi! Can share a little about yourself and what you do?
My name is Jeanette, I’m 35 years old and I was born and raised in New York (Washington heights). I created thewickedpink Instagram page because I wanted a platform where I can share funny content that people can relate to. I recently also started THEWICKEDPINK website where I sell thewickedpink apparel and will soon start posting blogs about dating in NYC from my point of view and the points of view of others.
Can you tell us about a significant heartbreak and how you recovered?
My most significant heartbreak happened during my mid 20’s. This one was significant because it was my longest relationship (5 years). It started out great, we were inseparable but throughout the years we grew apart. The love was there but we knew we weren’t a match anymore. He pulled the trigger on the breakup and I was devastated. Therapy really helped and it’s true what they say because time really does help heal wounds. As time went by, I cried less, I thought about us less and my hope of us getting back together went away. I mourned the breakup for over 6 months but I learned a lot about myself during that time.
What are major red flags for you when you start dating someone new?
A huge red flag I’ve often ignored is inconsistency. Someone who says they want to be with you but won’t put in the effort to prove it. They contact you here and there but only when it’s convenient for them. That is a huge red flag that says you are not a priority.
What are your favorite mood elevators to uplift and inspire you?
I have always hated working out but I recently started taking spin class and really love it. After a stressful work day or when my mind is being consumed by anxiety or doubt, I get on the bike and forget everything for that hour. It also boosts my mood, I feel a sense of accomplishment when I’m done and I love that. I also love spending time with close friends, they always talk me through things and offer their point of view.
Do you stay friends with your ex? Unfollow or follow them on social media, etc?
I do stay friends with some exes. Some I follow on social media, others I don’t. It all depends on why we broke up and how they treated me. Some exes I can’t stand and regret ever giving them the time of day (those I am not friends with). But for the most part, I’ve dated decent guys and just because we weren’t a romantic match doesn’t mean we can’t be friends.
Any tips for our users on moving on from heartbreak?
Work on yourself!! I can’t stress that enough. We are often times so consumed with finding a partner that we neglect ourselves. Go to therapy, take that trip, try different things, say yes to things you would normally say no to. Just get to know what you like and dislike. That way when a potential partner does come along, you know yourself, what you’re willing to compromise on and what your dealbreakers are. Having established hobbies and your own identity will help you balance a relationship when you find that person.
You can connect with Jeanette on Instagram.